The Mission
Positively Oriented strives to provide extraordinary resources to the adoption community and families from those who lived it to ensure a healthy happy life.
"Although I have always been Chinese, I had the luxury of burying my head in the dirt, ignoring it, and trying to fit in."
"Throughout high school, all I cared about was finding someone that I could truly relate to and not feel so isolated."
"Being a minority in America has many challenges and comes with many different adversities. We are not alone here in the land of opportunity."
"To parents who are adopting or have adopted...having friends or family that has already adopted for advice and real experience is important."
About Us
Positively Oriented is a consulting firm that provides resources and support for the adoption community. Organized by an adoptee, we understand the hardships of identity and recognition which is why I am dedicated to sharing the positives of our stories. Positively Oriented aims to support adoptive families, adoption agencies, and adoptees through expert adoption consulting, educational content, and storytelling. Whether you’re exploring domestic or international adoption, navigating the adoption process, or seeking adoption support services, we provide tools and guidance to help build strong, loving families while raising adoption awareness worldwide.
Our Stories Told Positively
Adoption stories have a multitude of challenges that often keeps adoptees in "the fog." Many of these stories we hear are sad and of individuals in the midst of adversities. Positively Oriented aims to support families through these difficulties and reminds everyone there are an equal amount of positives from our stories. Understandably, changing mentality is not a flip of the switch and it takes special intuitive care that only other people who experienced it first-hand can provide. Our stories holds real influence and our ability to overcome challenges transforms mental hurdles of others who are in the middle of their trials.
Ben The Adoptee
I was a 7 year old boy who came from a foreign land traversing America with diverse experiences as an adopted Asian-American. My story is about the adversities, struggles of identities, and lessons I have experienced along my journey.
When I came to America, I truly only had 1 immediate challenge and that was everyday when my parents left for work and I had to go to school. I remember how excited I was when my dad would be home or whenever I was being picked up by my mom.
Shortly after starting school, my challenge then was finding friends which was not always easy being singled out to go to first grade after kindergarten or being pulled aside to practice my English. Of course, being stubborn and wanting to fit in, I lost my language, culture, and anything that made me stick out.
On top of dealing with the same issues other kids had to in middle school and high school, family life, friends, and identity compounded. It was not under college when I started to open up about my true self.
I struggled and I was alone. It took knowing that I wanted to help kids who grew up with similar disadvantages, not having a community, and forced to grow up too soon to get me "out of the fog." Today, I work hard to make every child happy from coaching, to teaching, to my everyday life.